Happy Valentines Day y'all!! I know this day can be difficult for many people. For me this day has never really been about romance and love, I've always enjoyed it more because of all the pink and red and hearts! But today can bring out so many negative thoughts or just heighten the one's you may hear all the time. I know this is not the first time we've hit on this topic but it can be such a struggle that it's worth talking about again, even if only as a self reminder.
As y'all may or may not have noticed there tends to be many more pictures of June on our blog, specifically in the OOTD posts, and that is because I struggle so much with being in pictures and my self image. This didn't start at the beginning of Soma & Ulte, I've felt this way for longer than I care to admit. And although it's a daily battle in my brain I've found a few tips and tricks that may help some of you too!
1. Positive Self-Talk
Yes, this is that thing where you look in the mirror and say something nice about yourself out loud. My cousin once told me a good way to practice this is when a negative thought comes into your brain you immediately say the opposite out loud. For example if I think, "ugh, I hate my legs", I need to immediately say out loud "I'm so thankful for my strong legs that they allow me to walk and run and jump and play and get me from point A to point B". Now I realize this is MUCH easier said than done, I have to admit the times I've tried it I end up just laughing at myself but I'm told if you truly continue to practice it will start working. Our brains believe what we say, so if we spend all day saying "I'm so fat", "I hate my arms", "I wish I had that girl's body" you are making yourself believe all that.
I know, I know, if it were that easy we wouldn't be talking about this at all. But I'm not talking about getting outside and running 10 miles or signing up for a triathlon, I'm talking about just moving your body. I'm sometimes trap myself into believing if I can't run the entire hiking trail or if I can't do every move in the TRX class as well as the girl next to me then it's just a waste of time. But that is SO not true! Not only is doing 10 minutes of any exercise better than doing it nothing; most of the time just getting started is all you need. If you set out just to walk around the block more often than not you're motivated to keep going and before you know it your walk around the block has turned into 45 minutes and you've never felt better!
3. Empower yourself with knowledge
This one is just true in life but a lot of times when I'm struggling with feeling negatively about myself one of the best things I can do is research. Research foods that give you more energy, healthy snacks to make in place junk food, vitamins and exercises to help me sleep better. Nothing makes me feel better than being productive and actually working towards a goal!
4. Be Grateful
This one is huge and my favorite which is why I saved it for last! It is so easy to get caught up in your negative thoughts that you're missing all the incredible things you have to be thankful for. You're focusing all your energy on this negative feeling that it becomes all consuming. Once you get out of your own head you realize what a waste of time agonizing over not having "the perfect stomach" really is. The best way to get out of your own way is to volunteer. Whether that's doing a mentorship program or helping out at a local homeless shelter or even just doing something for a friend; putting someone else before you will always help you gain perspective.
Like I said, these are all tips I've read about and tried to implement and don't always succeed at but the biggest thing is to keep working at it! I hope these tips are helpful to you today if you're feeling particularly down and any day you just need a little boost. Take care of yourself today and make sure you give yourself a little love!
Soma & Ulte