For this Wellness Wednesday, I wanted to recommend a tiny little book that has nurtured my love for myself, my husband, family, and anyone I care about. It's written by a very wise and famous Zen master, Thich Nhat Hanh, and it's called "How to Love". He has a a whole slew of options for you: How to Fight, How to Relax, How to Sleep, and even How to Walk. However, I have to say that this one is my favorite.
It is full of short, almost poem-like nuggets of wisdom that are small, but pack a mighty punch. You'll read through one page and you'll find yourself just sitting there, marinating on all of the riches he has given you to think about. I particularly love to read it when I'm having a bad day or when I might be frustrated with a loved one. There was a time when I read it right as I went to bed at night and it became one of my favorite rituals. It set my mind right and gave me beautiful dreams.
Not gonna lie, some of his words have even made me cry and have healed some internal conflict. My boyfriend (now husband) and I were going through a rough patch in our relationship - mostly about growing together while independently discovering our freelance careers, and this little excerpt helped give me so much peace. It is called Opening the Door and has become one of my favorites from the book:
Once you know how to come home to yourself, then you can open your home to other people because you have something to offer. The other person has to do exactly the same thing if they are to have something to offer you. Otherwise, they will have nothing to share but their loneliness, sickness, and suffering. This can't help heal you at all. The other person has to heal themselves and get warm inside, so they will feel better, at ease, and can share their home with you.
There are reminders everywhere to be compassionate towards yourself and to others, as well as digging into what love truly means. It's so easy for all of us to get caught up on what "love" means... ya know, the kind we see in the movies. However, I appreciate this book because it takes out all the bullshit and makes you see the naked truth about love and how to show up with love. Here are 2 more excerpts in case you need more of a taste:
If you grab the book, let us know what you think!
Soma & Ulte